Babies are easy in this way – you can behave badly (swear, get angry, cry… anything goes) and baby won’t notice. When all I had to concentrate on was keeping a mainly positive outlook, because I knew she could feel my vibes, that was pretty easy.
Now we’ve welcomed in a toddler who is starting to communicate by pointing and using baby babble, is getting angry when she doesn’t get her way, starts crying when I say no, refuses to eat on occasion and throws or spits out food, and has tantrums pretty much daily.
Safe to say I’m feeling a little overwhelmed about how to correct any unsafe or “bad” behaviours and help her deal with all the big emotions. And selfishly, I’m finding it harder to deal with my own reactions and feelings when things go awry.
It’s so hard to know the right thing to do at any moment and remember that this isn’t about me (except for that time I refused to give her a chocolate biscuit, because I actually wanted to eat it. Lol)
Mackenzie doesn’t know yet that life is hard and this is why I mean I want to walk my talk. I don’t have any chance at being a successful parent if I can’t SHOW Mackenzie how to be a good human being. That life can be crappy when all you really want to do is touch that thing that mum won’t let you touch, but sometimes you have to accept that you can’t have everything.
Anyway, I’ve barely read a book, or googled parenting styles, or done anything else.
I thought I’d just canvas my audience first…How do you correct your child’s undesirable behaviour?
How do you help them deal with their newly found, and not yet understood emotions?
What about moulding them into good people?
Where do I start? Thanks in advance!