Kids are sponges! Vibes, germs, swear words… if you’re giving them out they’ll absorb them and use it against you.
A friend recently started a new job; Very exciting for mama but a bit daunting.. you know, normal first day jitters, and of course her kiddos played up at daycare drop off.
She messaged our group saying “ugh how do they know!?” and I was like: babe, I don’t know how they know BUT THEY KNOW.
It’s true: you can get up each day, put your big girl undies on and use your mum voice all you like, but if you have one ounce of self doubt? Your kids will exploit you for that like you’ve just shoplifted a lip gloss and you don’t want the ‘rents to find out.
So how do you get confidence as a Mum? Well that’s a hard one… but here are a few things that helped me in the end.
Spring has sprung and with it came a new baby! Well lots of babies, probably, but mine in particular.
My son came into the world early and he’s big, cries lots, feeds like a demon all day long and our hearts are so full. But it turns out that I still know nothing about nothing *anguished sob* Continue reading
Becoming a parent teaches you a lot about yourself.
There are truths I have learnt that I was not prepared to know. Life, of course, doesn’t care about that, it throws you in the deep end and expects you to swim.
I think it’s why I can’t help but flash a knowing smile every time I talk to a newly pregnant friend. They have all the joy, and hope and nervousness that I had too.
They also have the naïveté that is so comforting during those preparation months.
Looking back at our piece of paradise
Hubby and M
Private beach, and private outdoor shower
When a dear friend of mine announced she was getting married in Rarotonga we immediately agreed to go – baby in tow – and this is the story of how we survived the 3-4 hour flight there and back again.
Before I start, I just have to say that travelling anywhere by flight with a child is stressful. It’s stressful for your child, stressful for your fellow passengers, stressful for you as a parent, stressful for the flight crew, BUT, if you have the chance to travel I think you should take it.
Travel isn’t a given. It isn’t something that everyone is lucky to experience, and I reminded myself of this often when things got a little tough. Continue reading
I will never forget her… The nurse who scrunched up her nose, rolled her eyes and told me it was “not ideal to cuddle your baby, or look them in the eye when they wake at night”. It really hurt that to her, my instincts were wrong, and as a new mum I believed her. I believed her words over my own inner voice. I believed that she was right and I was wrong and OMG I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO AND THIS IS JUST GOING TO GET HARDER AND HARDER AND I JUST KNOW MY KID WILL NEVER EVER SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT, OR BE EASY TO RAISE. Continue reading
My daughter is sick again. And ugh, I’m over it.
It’s just another bloody thing to feel guilty about! Continue reading
Sleep is my god.
I worship it, I reach out for it and I feel confused and lost when, despite praying to the sleep gods, I can’t achieve it. Now I try to live by all the sleep “rules” in the hope that it’ll be my time. That I’ll go to sleep heaven.
My latest parenting freak out is figuring out how to conquer my biggest parenting unknown: raising a well behaved, kind and respectful child, and really walking that talk, as well.
Babies are easy in this way – you can behave badly (swear, get angry, cry… anything goes) and baby won’t notice. When all I had to concentrate on was keeping a mainly positive outlook, because I knew she could feel my vibes, that was pretty easy. Continue reading
Everyone wants to impart some wisdom on their kids so they can learn those important life lessons the easy way. Reality is that they probably won’t listen and they’ll have to learn it all the old fashioned way… By trial and error; winning, failing, living.
There’s a person behind this blog, and in an effort to share a little more I’m gonna jack those magazine columns that ask people for unknown facts about themselves… Continue reading